Practicing ttwd with Storm makes me feel more feminine. Before I started blogging and receiving feedback from you gals, it never occurred to me that many other women would feel more feminine because of ttwd, too. My gosh, how could I not know this? But, I promise you it is the absolute truth that because of my extreme athleticism, I just don't feel girly. And you know what? I don't really want to BE girly and I never have. Although my wedding dress would beg to differ now that I think about it. And we had pastels as the colors for the groomsmen and bridesmaids. That's kind of girly, isn't it? The best way for me to describe my wedding dress (because I absolutely refuse to go look any up here online because that is GIRLY!)........ is one of those interesting looking accordion toilet plungers with the ripples ...... a big white one made of Cool Whip....... throw some lace over that, shove me in the top of it and there's my wedding dress. I don't remember caring what anyone else thought of my dress except for Storm. I couldn't wait for that moment when my father had walked me just far enough down the aisle where Storm would come into view for the first time that day. I was so nervous that I was glad to finally see him and then finally GET TO HIM at the altar. Whew!
I enjoy putting on sexy panties and bras for Storm though..... as long as they don't poke me in weird places. And as long as Storm doesn't poke me in weird places either! Just kidding, if you're reading this, Honey! (I know you are! You can poke me anywhere you want, just keep in mind that BDSM checklist I filled out ten years ago first, k? You also won't find any FF that I write on PK's blog that is about me wanting my Hard Limits crossed either! No thank you!) HA!
But, what girl do you know that puts on fishing waders one minute and then wants to be naked bent over her husband's lap, getting her butt slapped the next? Me! Reeling in a 2 foot fish earlier in the day and then on my knees giving Storm a blow job later...... that's me, too! And, yes, I showered first, thanks for asking! As a matter of fact, we both end up in the shower and then some soapy gratitude and servitude on my part takes place in there sometimes!
Before practicing ttwd, I always thought of blow jobs as sexual and something nice to do for Storm. But, I never felt submissive about it. I never even thought about that. But, once the dd started........ changed my whole attitude about it. It is absolutely completely submissive to me and Storm now. We learned that the wife getting on her knees and giving her husband the gift of oral sex because of the time and attention and dominance he gives during the spanking was a natural thing to do. This is one of the first things I ever read about spanking and dd and it shocked me, but in a very hot way. The submission part also pulled me into the whole idea (with spanking being essential otherwise I wouldn't be a submissive anything!) and I knew I wanted to do it as long as Storm didn't think it was crazy. Well, you all know the answer to that as here we are 9 years later!
Because of life's circumstances over the years, there have naturally been stops and starts to our ttwd. Whenever I would start reading about dd or ttwd online in the few places I could find them, (way before I found you gals), I'd get it all in my head again and wonder if we could find the time and space and privacy to practice it. I shared this with Storm. Well, he told me something very interesting. He said that he could tell that I had been reading about dd again before I brought it up to him. I asked him how he knew this. Storm,"I can tell a difference in you." Me, "Just because I was reading it and not even talking with you about it?" Him, "Yes. It isn't that you become a different person, you're just softer, more aware of me and of yourself around me, your attitude is different." Wow. I really liked that. The power of the written word on a ttwd gal's mind. Amazing!
I think you have something here, Windy. Perceptive. Never thought about it before, but I was the same way. It makes me very happy to give Sam a blow job. Always did it before, but it is more special now. Oral sex is truly a gift that we give our guys. And they like that gift with no wrapping paper, hence I like to be naked when I do.ReplyDelete
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Ella, Interesting to hear it was the same way for you, too. I am spanked completely naked and you know what follows that exactly! LOL It is beautiful, Ella. Hugs, WindyDelete
I have a busy day in front of me, but simply put the brakes on when I read your post. You have really captured the essence of ttwd, submission and sex. The three are all linked and woven together in such a beautiful way. After we spoke about all this the other day, I even began a new post about it and if my life would just calm down, I would be posting. It will come soon. Feminine, submissive, strong and loving and throw in the sexuality of it and wow, the marriage rocks. This to me is one of your very best posts ever because it so speaks to me. Thank you, Windy and Storm too.
Hello, Busy Bee. Thank you for taking the time to read this highly personal post. I will never forget those words Storm said to me and how he said them. He means the world to me and he is the very reason for my submission, the power of our lovemaking, and together we continue to breathe life into our ttwd relationship. He is my sweet man, and he claims he is not a naturally dominant man. However, I am the only person who would know the specific kind of dominance it takes to make me feel feminine and Storm's got it. I look forward to your post about you and Jack, your submission and his dominance, your femininity and his masculinity, the resulting powerful sexuality of it all, and the love!! Hugs! Windy
I'm happy for you. This is the way it's supposed to work. Sadly it doesn't always.ReplyDelete
Thank you, PK. You're right, it doesn't always work. Marital love and the natural flow between spouses can still be a powerful give and take. Hugs! WindyDelete
Yes! ... it was only a few months into our ttwd adventure that Frank said almost the same thing as Storm... he said one of the things he loved about what we were doing was he noticed an overall change in my demeanor ... that I'd become softer. When you think about it, the softness, the femininity, becomes a feed to their dominance ... the submissiveness begets the dominance.ReplyDelete
I always enjoy how you take something, Windy ... be it an idea, a circumstance or whatever ... then turning it this way and that, peeling back the layers, seeking whats underneath ... you share your discoveries with us ... hugs ... nj
Hey there, NJ. It is so interesting and awesome that you and Frank experienced the same! I can see where you and I as 2 smart asses become softer... LOL..... Yes, you have taught me well about that submission feeding the dominance thing and although I thought you were a bit nuts at the time, I quickly realized you were right...and realized another thing I will tell you about sometime, if I don't forget. It's been one of those weekends! Thank you for the sweet way you described my investigatory work! I am on the job! The blow job, too! Hugs! WindyDelete
I love this. I have definitely noticed that when our DD dynamic is active, I naturally become more mindful and considerate of Tom's needs.ReplyDelete
Thank you, P! It all makes sense, doesn't it?! Wonderful to hear confirmation from another ttwd gal that this is the way it works.... so interesting and beautiful, right?! Hugs! WindyDelete
Interesting post Windy because we've also found that blow jobs have become something much more meaningful since ttwd. They can be controlling and demeaning, sensual and seductive, and so much more when it's not just "girl down on boy". :PReplyDelete
Good to know you and Eric have found the same thing! Yes, it can be many different things including the good and the yucky. So glad you have the good kind with your man and I have the good kind with my guy, too! Hugs, Amy! WindyDelete
Hello, Windy, I’m back and it’s all thanks to you for sorting out the non-commenting problem. Many thanks!ReplyDelete
I consider myself to be a feminine woman but wouldn’t describe myself as girly. I’m not that submissive either, I prefer to think I’m co-operative! I’ve definitely become softer, which has led to Harry being more assertive. I agree with NJ’s observation that the submissiveness begets the dominance. Harry has come a very long way from the spank-no he used to be and we’re both the better for it.
Hello, Rosie. Welcome back!! You have been missed by all. I laughed at the "co-operative"! Love that! You and that NJ are smart, the submission does beget the dominance. I am glad your Harry is not a spank-no anymore! Fun and beautiful! Hugs! WindyDelete
He sounds very perceptive Windy. I that.ReplyDelete
Interesting how our body language changes when our mind begins to embrace submission.
Hi, JLynne. Oh, I like how you said that... yes, the mind changes and then the body language naturally follows. Powerful stuff. Hugs! WindyDelete
I love how you wrote this! This is a fabulous post and I think you hit the nail on the head. I think femininity and submission go hand in hand. That is how it is for me anyway. Rick too has made similar comments about me being softer.
It's interesting, I've heard of a few women submitting to their husbands prior to them beginning a ttwd dynamic. Their husbands did notice a change and softening.
Hi, Roz, Thank you. I think of you and naturally sweet and feminine, so you must be extra so withyuyour Rick! :) Now that is interesting about the women submitting before the ttwd...... my hat is off to them (and it's my fishing hat, so that is a big deal! HA!).... that would be challenging for me! I'm glad it worked for them though, that is amazing. Hugs! WindyDelete