Saturday, August 24, 2019

I'm not bad?

Yesterday, this was totally me when my husband just mentioned possible spanking.  He couldn't stop laughing.

If I am getting spanked a lot, and I AM, I guess that means I'm bad.  We certainly don't practice ttwd because he's naughty!  There are spells of time where I am not in trouble, am doing things around the house, accomplishing whatever, and having a better attitude, but then  comes that  quick daily spanking that he tries to work in and I'm grateful for it, mostly.  However, I feel a bit confused sometimes and I say, "Wait, a second. I wasn't even naughty (yet) today,"  or  "Am I in trouble?"
Him, "No."
 Me, "Well, that FELT like I was in trouble!"

Things I have said to Storm frequently over the past several months as he/we have upped the intensity of how we're living our version of ttwd:

"I'm naughty."
"I'm crabby."
"I'm bad."   I get his hearty agreement on the first two, but to my surprise, not on the last one.

"I hate almost everybody, Honey," I explain partly why I think I am bad because I am overwhelmed with the stupidity, the silence, and the hypocrisy that is running rampant in my country these days.

Storm gently reassures me, "So do I, but I'm happy!"

Laughing.......  Storm is so anti-social, but you may not know that if you met him.  He's quiet and you would notice that, but he's also funny, quick to jump in with a quip, and he's a good listener, but what many people never get to know about him is that he has some things of his own that he would like to share.  Some people are so full of themselves, they don't take the time to listen to other people's ideas, concepts, and experiences if they differ from one's own.   He doesn't often feel the need to be heard, to be right, or to be liked, thus he doesn't usually speak out unless someone flat out asks him his opinions or thoughts on whatever the matter at hand is.

We have left places before and I will say to Storm in the car, "Honey, you know a lot about that subject," or....."I know you have strong convictions/beliefs on that topic, why didn't you speak up?"  He just figures other people aren't interested and he mostly likely isn't going to convince anyone to change their  minds on whatever  the topic is simply by hearing him give his views.  While I understand and respect what he is saying, I feel that he has wonderful ideas and different ways of thinking about things in life that make me think on a deeper level.  Part of it is his delivery.....he's just nonthreatening and humble.  And the other part is his compassion and the fact that he doesn't feel threatened in the least if you disagree with him.  This is a big part of the reason as to why I was so grateful to our most recent vacation hosts back in June.   He really likes them, he was truly comfortable with them, and they treated him like his voice mattered.  I am forever grateful to both of them for this.

So, upon further discussion, he tells me that I am not bad. He reminds me that I am being spanked because I get too frustrated, to take the edges off of my emotions, and to reinforce our roles.  Yesterday, I was hit with a wave of frustration over some things which resulted in him saying we might need to spend some time in the bedroom that night which translates into someone is getting spanked!  But, because I knew I hadn't been disrespectful or spouty to him, and the fact that I was exhausted from 4 days of migraines in a row and not much sleeping the next 2 or 3, I made the Lucy face because I truly did not want to be spanked for any reason, and I think I sounded just like you'd imagine.  Storm laughed very hard at my reaction as he put his arms around me, and encouraged me to just take a nap on the couch for a while and rest.  I took his advice immediately.  I may be a lot of things, but stupid isn't one of them!  An hour later, I did feel better and calmer and we did the whole Netflix and chill, but he mercifully decided not to spank me.

I guess I'm not so bad after all, but I am not totally convinced.


  1. I agree with Storm. Not bad - high spirited, impetuous, passionate, exhausted, opinionated, annoyed, right, overwhelmed, stressed... you take your pick at any given moment. All these things are natural and expected. Not to say some won't get you spanked at times. But it seems like he knows when to spank and when to hold off. That's a pretty special quality in our guys.

    1. Hi, PK! Wow, look at your description of me. It's like you KNOW me or something! HA! I don't think anyone has ever said that I am opinionated though.....hmm.... maybe it's because when we have our own blogs, we sort of have to be opinionated otherwise what the heck is there to talk about if not the way we feel? And viea email, yes, there I am a little more blunt, I guess, and that is where very personal things can be discussed, so I guess you're right. LOL Thanks for reading and for the sweet input. We do have very sweet guys for sure. Hugs, Windy

  2. Hi Windy,

    I love this! 4 days of migraines and little sleep..eek. You poor thing, no wonder you made the Lucy face!

    How sweet of Storm. I love how this ended. Spanking isn't always the answer. He knows you so well, what you need and when.


    1. Hi, Roz! Thanks for the sympathy! LOL I needed it, but I am okay now and slowly getting back to things that need doing! Thank you for saying Storm is sweet....he truly is..... I hope you and your guy are doing well ! Hugs, Windy

  3. Windy,
    What we know for sure in ttwd is that our guys love us. Storm knew what to do and you leaned in to what he wanted. Those migraines are no fun. Let's see if this week you will be headache free and fair game for all that spanky action. I am thinking of you.

    1. Meredith,
      Yes, our guys do love us for sure! Interesting that the more leaning OVER he requires of me, the better I am at leaning IN. HA! True story and you know it. Blah, migraines blow. Lots of spanky action again today. He is going to wear me out! LOL! Thank you, friend for your sweet comments. Hugs, Windy

  4. Firstly, commiserations on the migraines; I know from experience how debilitating they can be. As to being bad, if Storm says you're not, then you're not, he's the judge! We all spout off or get crabby from time to time and pay the price for our naughtiness, that doesn't mean we're bad. If we were always 'good' we'd be like Stepford wives and, in my opinion, only weak men need doormats to bolster themselves up in that way.
    The thing that shines through this post is that Storm reads you so well and acts accordingly.
    I see from the comments that you've made up for lost time in the naughty stakes. Storm sure has your measure!

    Rosie-come-lately xx

    1. Hi, Rosie! You've made it just in time before I put up another post. HA! Yes, Storm does seem to have me figured out and now that has more opportunity, I am getting spanked, girl ! YOWZERS! I am sorry to hear that you know the awfulness of migraines. You're right that I need to go with Storm's opinion and outlook on my goodness or badness. He loves me and often only sees the good, but he sure is getting more sharp with noticing the naughty! I love what you said about our strong men not wanting doormats for wives..... thank you for that! I need to learn the nuances of the art of submitting! Hugs! Windy

  5. It sounds like it’s been a bit of a tough time health wise for you. I’m glad to hear you’re feeling better. I do love those times when our guys realize that spanking just isn’t what’s needed in the moment. Sometimes we just need those cuddle up, Netflix nights to ground us again and get us back on track. The spanking ALWAYS comes! Lol!

    1. Hey, Laurel. Yes, dealing with chronic stuff has been very challenging. I'm trying! Yes, thank goodness for mercy from our guys. Whew! Our guys provide the perfect prescription for what ails us, don't they? :) Hugs, Windy

  6. Sir and I were doing this thing were I got spanked *every day*. Whether I was bad or not! It was a bit of a mind trip, but eventually I came to accept it and its calming, submissive effect on me.

    Not all spankings are bad! :)