When I initially found blogs several years ago, I did so by typing in "stress relief spanking" and I got a hit on Bonnie's blog. I think I recognized her blog from previous look ups, but I just thought it was a website for spanking. It totally went over my head that she had links to women and men who wrote about it. I wasn't interesting in the pictures or videos from other sites. I wanted to read about women who wanted to get spanked and why, but for the most part, I couldn't find it. Until I landed on her blog, like I said. From there, I found domestic discipline and ttwd blogs that I never knew even existed.
What's interesting is that I still don't know much about stress relief spankings even though that was my primary reason for the internet search. Storm and I don't have that as a normal part of our routine, but I have noticed many times that halfway through a spanking, I start to really settle in -- my body becomes heavier and sinks down into the bed that I am bent over. Natural deep breaths happen of their own accord. I do relax and calm down as my breathing changes........ and not long after that is when I get turned on sexually.
Well, hmmm. As a person who has suffered a long time with an anxiety disorder, why have I not worked it out with Storm that I need a stress relief spanking? I guess because part of the whole spanking thing being a turn on for me is him initiating it. It is just not the same when I ask for it. I feel dumb. I feel embarrassed. And, no I don't feel either of those things when he initiates. However, a stress relief spanking would serve a different purpose and not really be as focused on the whole power dynamic going on, necessarily. Yes? No?
How can we make this happen? Bonnie shared here on her blog when I asked her: For me, a stress relief spanking is a wonderful, rejuvenating experience. It's sort of like a deep tissue massage that focuses upon just two spots. I am positioned OTK. The pace is slow, but steady. Sometimes, there are candles, scented oil, and/or chill music. The intensity starts relatively low and builds. He typically uses an implement, but not anything ferocious. He stops periodically to caress my bottom, legs, hips, and lower back. When he begins spanking again, it follows the same pattern with a gradual build-up. When it's done, I am sore to be sure. After all, this is a real spanking. But I am incredibly relaxed and happy. This routine does wonders for my psyche. I can't find exactly where she said this on her blog, but I do have her permission to use this and here is a link to some places on her blog where she writes specifically about stress relief spanking. Thank you, Bonnie!
Well this sounds quite therapeutic. I wrote to Storm in an email, that for me, perhaps it would be physical pain driving out mental, emotional pain, anxiety, and fear. This is an area that I want to explore between us. Interestingly, he said he's been thinking about this very thing to help me with my anxiety and worry because it's never good, he has noticed that it has been particularly high recently.