Is it hugs and kisses or kisses and hugs? The X could be a hug because it is the crossing of arms, but it also might be the kiss because of how our lips wrinkle up like little stars when we kiss. The O could be the hug since we wrap our arms around one another, but it might also be how we shape our mouths into tight little round shapes when we kiss. Which is it?
I sign my posts and comments "Hugs, Windy," but in real life, I am not much of a hugger. Of course, I hug my parents, and my daughter, but the most oxytocin producing hugs are the ones I have with Storm because they last more than 20 seconds. Close physical touch among friends, lovers, and animals can naturally reduce pain and calm anxiety. Storm and I hug many times throughout the day. In the past, a friend of mine pointed out that we're always touching one another and it's true. I like to have a connection with Storm whether we're watching television on the couch, riding in the car, or making love, the last of which we did not do in front of the friend, obviously. Maybe we'd have more friends if we did? Woo! Woo!
Kissing releases hormones, too, and one of the health effects is better blood flow. Therefore, according to one place I was reading, kissing can help cramps. Laughing. Good luck to any person trying to relieve his/her partner's cramps by kissing them away. One might get his/her head bitten off in the process! The article also said that you could burn 2 to 26 calories per minute depending on how intensely you kiss. Uhhh.... are the 26'ers riding an exercise bike while they're kissing? Maybe I would let Storm make out with me after all when I am crabby and bloated with my period if it burns that many calories! Otherwise, I'll stick with the ibuprofen and the heating pad.
I'm not currently a big kisser. Storm and I kissed for hours when were dating because as young Evangelicals that is all we were allowed to do. Pfft. Sometimes in our married life, I do think we skimp on the foreplay and go right for the main goods too quickly, but I am not blaming Storm. I'm actually more impatient about that than he is. But when the mood is right, then the kissing is right, which makes it a wonderfully intimate part of our foreplay......... that is some good stuff. I've noticed this happens more often after some intense spanking/submissive nekkidness.
So how is it for you? Do you really enjoy kissing or is it something you kind of skip over? And do you think the X is a hug or a kiss? And what about the O?
As far as I understand it, the X is hug (arms crossed in a hug) nd O is kiss (for open mouth). At least I hope so because I sign off XX with friends. Don't want them to think I've got the hots for them lol.I must add, they do the sane.
I am a bit of a hugger and I love kissing, with Rick of course lol. I love the connection it brings.
Kissing is good for cramps huh? Who knew? You cracked me up with you sex in front of friends comment lol.
Well done on the challenge. Great X topic:)
Hi, Roz! Thanks for the info on which is the x and what is the o. The others agree with you, so now I know! I'm glad you're a hugger and a kisser. Yay for you and Rick! Almost done with this jacked up challenge! lol Thanks! WindyDelete
funny I have never found kissing fun .. or erotic.. or a turn on. Don't know why - but like ewww..ReplyDelete
snuggles and hugs YES YES YES ...
I come from Quebec..... and Quebecers kiss on both cheeks when greeting someone... and they tend to hug a lot! When I moved to Ontario I was doing the two cheek kiss all the time - until someone told me I made them uncomfortable...... WHAT??!! I was gob smacked - who doesn't like a hug and kiss on both cheeks?? It has been the hardest habit to break.......
as for X hug or kiss... I always thought the X was for hug - and the O ...... well I guess in this instance it means kiss (cheeky grin)
Hey, MorningStar! Interesting you never found kissing erotic ever. All the kids were French kissing when I was kind of young, so I never got grossed out by it, but I can see why it is considered kind of gross by some. I wouldn't like all the cheek kissing unless the cheeks are my ass and Storm was the only kisser. HA! You agree with Roz, so I believe you both about the X's and O's! WindyDelete
Oh goodness... I'm afraid I only hug very specific people and only under extenuating conditions. *laugh* I'm too much of a "THIS is my dance space, THAT is yours" person to be 'a hugger'. I collect huggers though -- they are salt & pepper shakers that wrap together in a 'hug' -- so maybe that counts?ReplyDelete
Also, the kissing thing... Nope. *laugh* I don't mind it once in a while, but only in short bursts and never EVER "wet." Just... NO. Lol. (I might have 'issues'.) Mostly, if he wants to get his tongue involved, I'm like, "Let's put that whole licking thing to better use, shall we?" *grin*
hahaha, Mrs. Fever, yes, your salt and pepper shaker huggers definitely count. Okay, so you're not a fan when his tongue is near your mouth, but when it is near other kinky parts, you're all in! I remember that from your Kiss My Ass post! Laughing. Lickity Flickity, I believe you called it. Still makes me laugh. Okay, I think I have decide I am not signing my posts "hugs" anymore since it seems to put some people off and I don't really want to hug most people in truth, so I guess it's a platitude that I didn't mean to employ. Yikes. So no more hugs real or fake! lmao WindyDelete
We do some kissing, but of course not like the old days when we were dating. I prefer hugging to kissing, I'll leave the long make out sessions to the young. I always thought it was x-kisses and o-hugs. I don't use either symbol much and when I see one or both I just think of them as affection.ReplyDelete
Hi, PK! Boy those long make out sessions are for the young indeed. Who has time to do all those hours of kissing we used to do? lol Yeah, I see the xo's as affection, too, until I look closer and then try to figure out which is which. But, Roz and everyone else has solved the mystery for me. WindyDelete
X as a hug is what I always thought, but then someone told me that it is an international sign for stop....so maybe we shouldn't use X at all if it means stop (or worse, wrong when written on a school assignment).ReplyDelete
I am a hugger. But only with my immediate family. It feeds a need in me. I also have to "balance" the hugs, one on each side. Otherwise, you walk around lopsided from the hug. Laughing!
Now kissing....with Sheriff? Nothing better! I bug him several times a day for kisses.
Now as for kissing leading to things (grin), the more the better....I prefer a long build up rather than a sprint to the end. Giggles!
Hi, Boo! Wow, so XO could actually be someone's safe word, eh, for stop? I can see you as a hugger with your close family... interesting balance thing you have going on. So you hug two people at once, you mean?Delete
Aww, love that you and your Sheriff are kissy faced with one another. Good for you on the long build up. Happy that you know how you like it! :) Windy
I am quite expressive in my feelings to those close to me, I grew up in an environment where both my parents were non expressive not only in a physical way but with words as well, my mum in particular would freeze up if you went to hug her, it's like she didn't know how to respond it made her uncomfortable.ReplyDelete
So, yeah I love hugging, kissing my husband I enjoy that to, not the full on wet snogging that goes on for ages, but more in an exploratively sense when engaging in foreplay, haven't tired of it in over 20 years and hope not to, it's a different kind of intimacy I suppose.
I rarely use xoxox and would assume x for hugging and o for kissing which appears to be the general consensus of everyone at the moment.
Hi, Claire! Eh, non-affectionate families are a snore. I have a couple like that. Eek, that is challenging for a kid when the mom is not a hugger. My mom can do it but only for like a few seconds because of her cold upbringing. I didn't care though and have always been affectionate with her and she lets me because I am her baby. Although the grandbaby (now an adult) took over that spot of affection and I got the boot, partially. lmao Kidding, but Grandmas can be like that!Delete
Snogging, eh? And a wet one at that! LOL I'll have to maybe incorporate that into my vocabulary. It's funny.
Yes, all you gals seem to agree on the x's and o's and I am taking your advice! Thanks! Windy
I always thought the X was a kiss and the O was a hug. But I supposed either will do.ReplyDelete
It does seem true that once sex is on the table, foreplay gets a back seat. Not for me personally, but that is certainly something I've noticed to be true. Passion changes I guess.
I love letter X posts! Always such variety.
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Hi, JLD! Oh, I bet you have found some interesting X posts! Interesting how the foreplay changes ... I think you're right that it does go along with passion.Delete
Thanks for stopping by my blog. This has been some challenge. First time for me. I didn't realize so much follow up would be going on. I will have to check out the information again and visit your blog. Thanks for hosting! It's a great way to make oneself write and maybe get to know a new blogger or two. A read-a-thon sounds fun, too! Windy
The X has been the symbol for a kiss since the 1700's..and was used at the end of letters and cards...the O has recently come to mean a hug....meaning to encircle you with the arms....ReplyDelete
Hi, Britman! Thank you for the information about the kiss and then the O. Good to know! Thanks for stopping by! WindyDelete
When we talk about something, I tend to forget that I didn't actually post a comment. LOL. So at the risk of sounding repetative:
I am not a huge hugger. It requires too much vulnerability or it's awkward depending on who it is with. I can embrace it when the person who is initiating it is 'all in'. We have a friend who is a big bear hugger. I've never once cringed or shied away from his hugs. But this hugging upon meeting expectation is for the birds! So you know there is one not so bad thing about this pandemic *wink* LOL.
As for signing off...I say do whatever feels natural. I don't usually say things, for good or for ill that I don't mean in the moment. So for me to sign off 'Hugs" or 'Love" wouldn't work for me. It doesn't mean that when I sign off as just 'willie' or nothing at all, it means I do not have respect or care for the person I am talking to. But signing off with " respectfully willie" sounds more off to me than willie. LOL It's not that I never do it, but when I do, I mean it. Not saying that those who sign off, " hugs" don't mean it- but as I said, not a huge hugger sooooooo...lol
Hey yourself! lol Yes, talking and emailing and blogging blur together sometimes and we forget if we commented or not. I'm old. lolDelete
The vulnerability makes a lot of sense to me and your apprehension on not knowing if someone is gonna hug ya or half hug ya. I would not want somebody that I was close to to only half hug me. But, if someone I don't know well wants to hug me goodbye because I am friends with his wife or something and we all just had dinner, that's fine. Whatever works. I also would not want to hug somebody that does not want to be hugged by me. I absolutely do not go around hugging just anyone in real life, but certain places like church, it's just something people do.
I read another blog very recently that talked about platitudes so I am kind of hyper aware of the whole "hug" sign off thing now. If I only signed that with gals that I know well, it would look like I didn't like the other gals. So I think I am just going to stop using it. I reserve the right to change my mind though!
As for you, if we ever met, I would not be afraid to fully hug you at all. I would be very happy to meet you and a hug would be my true feelings. Just a heads up if that day ever comes. :) Windy