Monday, July 5, 2021

No Spankin'

 Anybody out there getting spanked this summer?  Not me!  Storm and I do not currently have a ttwd bone to be found between us.  Even his bone hasn't been between us.  Ugh!   Here's why.......

I am having chronic UTI's...... I have been since our honeymoon over 30 years ago.  It's insane, but whatever.  It is what it is, sex is almost always the event that triggers it and then I have an extremely hard time getting healthy again.  I finally saw a specialist this week who will work with me on some things, so that is good anyway.  So if there is no sex and there isn't, then there is no spanking.  And if there is no spanking, there is no ttwd.  And if there is none of that, then there is zero submission on my part and Storm isn't going to dominate under those circumstances, so here we are.  Big breath......

I did get better for about 2 weeks a bit ago, but that was when we all got our second vaccine shots (Yay!) and Storm had a scary reaction from it (Booo!)  He had a fever that just shot up out of nowhere.  Eek!  Thank God for a long distance doctor in our family and instructions on what to do....... 24 hours later, it was gone, but he had the nastiest sore throat for the next 2 weeks..... the very same 2 weeks I was feeling better.  Our timing was off, dog gone it, so while we usually can take advantage of those times when I'm healthy, this time we couldn't because he was too sick.  

We have had one big fight in the past couple of months and it didn't have anything to do with ttwd.  It's actually a relief not to be constantly aware of the work that a power exchange relationships requires.  I am sick of it, to be honest.  Yes, it's illness that got in the way of it all, but Storm and I mostly get along so much better without the ttwd than we do with it.  Of course, we miss the kinkiness and all that that entails, but we just have some family stuff to figure out and it wasn't getting better with us trying to bring ttwd into it anyway.  

To sum up the problem, I'll just say that parenting an adult child has been the biggest challenge of our marriage and really hit us hard the past couple of years.  It takes a toll for the whole family to get through an illness together and then a whole lot of healing physically and emotionally, especially for the kid.  Things are going better for her now, but I found myself suddenly dealing with a half empty nest kind of thing for the first time.  When decisions are being made that I would not make myself nor would I advise certain things, but I have to be the mom because I am needed and I have to advise under challenging circumstances, I can't look to Storm for suggestions regarding mother-daughter things.  He tries, but it just makes things worse because he isn't a good communicator.  So I threw ttwd out the window regarding this area of our lives.  Mother knows best ..... I'm not sorry.  It's true.   There are things that I am better at and I am tired of trying to get his input first when I don't need it and he doesn't want to give it anyway.  lmao  I do want his support though and we are working on that ........ And I would not want to be him dealing with 2 adult females, one of which is perimenopausal, in the house.  He is like a deer in the headlights.  Poor guy.  Laughing. 

To keep myself busy and entertained, I usually write, but obviously, I have not been doing that because I couldn't possibly self reflect any more than I already have been this summer or I'd have barfed all over this blog every day.  I couldn't do that to myself nor did I want to do that to those of you who read here.  Instead, I have been gardening like crazy with 2 raised garden beds ........




Then our neighbor did some remodeling and threw out some wood that I painted and made this:


My other neighbor saw what I was doing and then gave me an old wooden pallet that I painted and made this:


And finally, with extra wood we had in the garage, I actually built this guy myself:  


So I am busy tending to all of that especially now that the vegetable garden beds have tomato and cucumber vines growing like twisted pubic hair all over the place!  Here's pictures from tonight:





That's what I'm up to and where I've been.  No spanking here.  "Bout to get some brand spankin' new tomatoes and peppers soon though!   How about you?  Any spanking out there?

12 comments:

  1. Hi Windy,

    Wow, your creations are awesome! I don't have a creative or artistic bone in my body lol. It's great to hear from you. I have been wondering how you and Storm are doing. Not much spanking going on here either.

    I'm so sorry things have been difficult. Storm's reaction to the vaccine must have been scary! Ugh on the UTI's. Praying the specialist will be able to provide some relief.

    Hugs
    Roz

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    1. Hi, Roz! It's good to see you, too! :) I had a garden at our old house for the first time as an adult and I loved it. Once we moved, there is always so much other outside work to do that I didn't have the stamina to dig up sod and put one in the ground, so I have just done tomatoes and cucumbers in pots. Well, I miss my garden, so once I found the raised garden bed idea online and it seems to be working well for us. Thanks for prayers. I hope you and your guy are doing well on your side of the world. Hugs, Windy

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  2. Mighty nice to see you here. Spanking, TTWD or not, I love to hear from you. Dealing with illness, yours and Storms and dealing with an adult child seems like a little more than one person should have to mess with at any one time. You asked if anyone else was getting any spankings - I looked up the word to see what it meant... I really shouldn't say that. I actually got spanked yesterday, but... It's complicated. Hope things are improving daily.

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    1. Hi,PK! Thank you! Always nice to see you as well. :) You looked up spanking to remind yourself what it was cuz you aint seen one in a while? But then you did get spanked recently? It does sound complicated, but that's ttwd for ya. The good and the bad! lol Windy

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  3. 'twisted pubic hair' ??!!! OMG I laughed out loud and it felt so damn good - don't remember the last time I laughed spontaneously!!
    No spanking
    No sex
    NO ttwd here either - and I don't see any in the near future (a death will do that to you )

    I wish I could get motivated to make stuff from bits of wood - especially plant pot holders... but it's just not me..... and Sir Steve has more than enough to deal with right now...... so I am reading... GAH!! there are not enough books!! or maybe not enough money to buy more books!!!

    Let's start a club - the housewives of NO ttwd (grinning)

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    1. Hi, MorningStar! Happy to have helped you with a laugh. :) Looks like we're in a dry spell with the sex and spanking thing, eh? Hey, reading is GREAT! It's a big stress reducer and an awesome distraction. I think it's a healing thing, too. I have never made anything out of wood before (except Storm's wood,HA!)...... and I bought all the little pots of different sizes, so I just got ideas online on what to do. LMAO at the Housewives of NO ttwd. That's kind of what blog land has been since I joined anyway! Windy

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  4. Hey Windy,

    so so jealous of your creativity and gardens! I want to be like that one day. It will never happen, but I can hope.

    I am sorry that you guys are going through so much. I hear UTIs really suck and chronic must be the worst of all. Parenting adult kids sounds like an oxymoron. sigh....it sounds like it doesn't get any easier.

    I hope that you guys can find some way to connect physically, if only to try and relieve the stress of everything.

    I think that TTWD is firmly entrenched here though.....Sheriff spanked me OUTSIDE!!!! I was shocked (and thrilled).

    I hope that things improve soon.
    Hugs
    Boo

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    1. Hi, Boo! Ah, yeah, thanks, but I'm just a hack. lol Yeah, God definitely put the female urethra in the WRONG spot. Good grief. Yeah, your word oxymoron regarding adult parenting is right on spot. No, it doesn't get any dang easier. Worry City. Glad to hear your ttwd is firmly established at your place. You gonna start a blog now and share your secrets to success? Maybe teach us old timers a thing to two? lol Love the outside spanking. That is a thrill for sure. Happy for you! Hugs, Windy

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  5. Once upon a time, UTIs were the constant bane of my existence. They SUCK. I'm sorry you're having to deal with that.

    I love your garden ladder/plant displays! What a great idea! I especially like what you did with the slatted pallet. It gives me an idea -- I might borrow on your creativity to green up my deck! :)

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    1. Hi, Feve! Ugh, sorry to hear that you know exactly what I am talking about with the dang UTI's. Brigit once referred to them on her blog after a fun weekend as 'fucking UTI's" and I actually laughed out loud because it's so dang true.

      Thanks for the compliments. I have been wanting to do the ladder thing for years and had a really nice ladder left over from a bunk bed situation, but decided it was way too nice to put it outside. That led me to searching online to what else I could do that was for beginners, and I did a lot of planning and then just went for it. I'm not worried about how recycled wood looks up close if it's for outside, so that made it easier. Hey, borrow away, just like I did and pass it along! It was fun! Hope your deck gets green! Windy

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  6. To answer your question...
    2 teenagers who are always home + bedrooms which are next to each other + who knows what other factors enter the equation??? = no sex = no spanking
    Haven't been on blogland much and wanted to say hi. :-) Take care!

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    1. Hi, Terps! So great to see you here! Laughing.... I love your explanation as to what the heck is going on with none of the good sexy stuff. Thank you so much for stopping by to say hello and to give us a chuckle that we all can relate to! :) Windy

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